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  • looking at the call to suffer, from the Bible

    Based on the teachings attributed to Jesus in the New Testament, embracing suffering is a significant aspect of following him. Here’s a summary of key themes:

    * **Following Jesus’ Example:** Jesus himself endured significant suffering, including betrayal, mockery, and crucifixion. He presented this as a model for his followers, saying things like, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” (Mark 8:34).

    * **Suffering as a Consequence of Faith:** Jesus indicated that his followers would face persecution and hardship because of their beliefs. He warned them that the world would hate them as it hated him (John 15:18-20).

    * **Suffering as Participation in Christ’s Suffering:** The Apostle Paul elaborated on this idea, suggesting that believers share in Christ’s sufferings, which also means they will share in his comfort and glory (Romans 8:17, Philippians 3:10).

    * **Suffering for the Sake of the Gospel:** Followers were encouraged to endure hardship for the sake of spreading the message of Jesus, viewing it as a form of sacrifice and service (2 Timothy 1:8, 2 Corinthians 12:15).

    * **Spiritual Growth Through Suffering:** The New Testament often portrays suffering as a means of spiritual growth, character development, and refinement. It can lead to perseverance, character, and hope (Romans 5:3-5, James 1:2-4).

    * **Eternal Perspective:** The emphasis on embracing suffering is often linked to an eternal perspective. Present suffering is seen as temporary and outweighed by the future glory that awaits believers (2 Corinthians 4:17-18).

    * **Love and Compassion in Suffering:** While embracing their own suffering, Jesus also taught his followers to show love and compassion to others who are suffering (Matthew 25:31-46, Luke 10:25-37).

    It’s important to note that the call to embrace suffering is not a call to seek out pain or to passively accept injustice. Rather, it’s about how believers should respond when suffering comes as a result of their faith and their commitment to following Jesus’ teachings. It involves endurance, perseverance, and finding spiritual meaning in the midst of hardship, with a focus on eternal hope and love for others.

  • where are you living? you’ll be happiest living in the present

    **Where Are You Living?**

    **PAST**  

    – Guilt, shame and regret  

    – Feeling sad or depressed  

    – Dwelling on what happened  

    – Replaying events or conversations  

    – Overanalyzing  

    **PRESENT**  

    – Clarity  

    – Acceptance  

    – Joy of being  

    – Understanding  

    – Inner peace  

    – Gratitude  

    **FUTURE**  

    – Fear of the unknown  

    – Worrying about what could happen  

    – Feeling anxious for what is to come  

    – Overthinking “what if” scenarios  

    – Thinking worse case scenario 

  • choosing to be happy is only the beginning

    they say happiness is a choice, but science also defines things that aid in happiness and are necessary prerequities, like healthy relationships and meaning and purpose. so maybe we can fake it till we make it, but true happiness involves creating a life with the necessary happiness ingredients AND THEN also choosing happiness

    You’re speaking to the subtle but powerful interplay between **agency** and **architecture** in the science (and art) of happiness.

    Let’s break this down like a philosopher with a lab coat:

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    ### 🧠 **Happiness Is Not *Just* a Choice**  

    The idea that “happiness is a choice” is motivational—but incomplete. It assumes we can *will* our way into joy regardless of circumstance. But research in positive psychology tells us that **context, connection, and conditions matter.**

    – **Healthy relationships** predict happiness as strongly as diet predicts health.  

    – **Purpose** and **meaning** are central pillars in frameworks like Martin Seligman’s PERMA model.  

    – Even **physical health**, **adequate sleep**, and **financial security (up to a modest threshold)** are baseline supports for well-being.

    Choosing happiness without these is like planting seeds on concrete. It takes root better when the soil is rich.

    —

    ### 🎭 **Fake It Till You Make It… But Don’t Fake It Forever**  

    The “fake it” approach—smile, be grateful, act with optimism—can kickstart emotional momentum. Neuroplasticity supports this: behavior can shape mindset. But this works best when done with **authenticity**, not denial.

    So yes, we can **train our emotional habits** through action, but the long-term goal is to build a life that reflects our deepest values—because happiness isn’t just a mood. It’s a byproduct of living meaningfully.

    —

    ### 🏛️ **True Happiness = Ingredients + Intention**  

    Think of happiness as a recipe:

    – **Ingredients**: Meaningful work, loving connections, spiritual or existential grounding, contribution, physical and mental health.

    – **Intention**: Choosing to savor, to reframe, to forgive, to show up, to be present even when it’s hard.

    You can’t bake a cake with just willpower. But even with all the ingredients, you still have to decide to turn on the oven.

    —

    ### 💡 **Bottom Line:**  

    True happiness involves **creating the conditions** for joy, and then **choosing to inhabit them** fully.  

    Not just choosing to feel good, but choosing to build a life worth feeling good about.

  • Our lives are like unfinished symphonies, finding the finger of God in our every day life, and bringing context to life and death

    – **The Infinite Horizon:** Drawing from theologian Karl Rahner, Rolheiser presents the concept of the “infinite horizon” to illustrate humanity’s innate longing for the divine. This metaphor emphasizes our perpetual yearning for connection with God amidst life’s imperfections. Life is like a symphony… yet in this life, every symphony remains unfinished. The infinite horizon of life is similar to other spiritual ideas… ‘our hearts are restless until they rest in you’, and we all have a God shaped hole that only he can fill. 

    – **Sacredness in Daily Life:** The book encourages readers to find holiness in everyday moments, suggesting that God’s presence is evident in our routines, relationships, and challenges. Just look for God’s finger in your life. 

    – **Paschal Imagination:** Rolheiser introduces the idea of a “paschal imagination,” urging believers to perceive their lives through the lens of Christ’s death and resurrection. This perspective fosters hope and transformation, even in suffering. As has been said elsewhere, ‘death brings context to life’. And Christ’s resurrection brings context to life, as well.

  • embracing negative experiences and suffering, and prioritizing what’s important

    That’s a quote from Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. It captures one of the central ideas of the book, which is rooted in a kind of practical, counterintuitive philosophy:

    “The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”

    In essence, Manson is saying:

    Chasing happiness can make you more unhappy, because it reinforces the idea that you’re lacking something. Accepting pain, discomfort, or negativity can be freeing, because it removes the internal resistance and self-judgment that compound suffering. It echoes ideas from Stoicism, Zen Buddhism, and Existentialism—accepting life as it is, rather than constantly trying to escape or control every part of it.

    —————–

    Here’s a concise summary of *The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck* by Mark Manson:

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    ### 🌱 **Core Idea:**

    Life is limited, and so is your capacity to care. So, **choose wisely what you give a f\*ck about.**

    —

    ### 🧠 **Key Concepts:**

    1. **The Feedback Loop from Hell:**

       – Trying to feel good all the time makes you feel worse. Wanting a positive experience is itself a negative experience. Accepting negative experiences creates peace.

    2. **Happiness Is a Problem:**

       – Pain and struggle are inherent. Growth comes from solving problems, not avoiding them.

    3. **You Are Not Special:**

       – Reject entitlement and narcissism. You’re not owed happiness or success—you earn meaning through responsibility and values.

    4. **The Value of Suffering:**

       – Everyone suffers, but the *quality* of your life depends on what you’re willing to suffer *for*. Good values produce meaningful suffering; bad values produce avoidable pain.

    5. **You’re Always Choosing:**

       – You may not control what happens, but you’re responsible for how you respond. That’s the power of choice.

    6. **You’re Wrong About Everything:**

       – Certainty is the enemy of growth. Embrace doubt, question yourself, and keep evolving.

    7. **Failure Is the Way Forward:**

       – Action → inspiration → motivation (not the other way around). Do something, even if it’s small. Success is built on many small failures.

    8. **The Importance of Saying No:**

       – Boundaries define who you are. Saying “no” gives your “yes” meaning. You can’t care about everything.

    9. **And Then You Die:**

       – Facing your mortality is the ultimate clarity. It strips away trivial concerns and helps you focus on what matters most.

    —

    ### 💡 Bottom Line:

    Don’t try to be positive all the time. Instead, **care deeply about fewer, better things.** Live with intention, embrace responsibility, and accept that life is messy—but still meaningful.

    —

    ### 🌌 **1. The Power of Acceptance:**

    The paradox Manson presents—that chasing positivity breeds discontent, while embracing negativity can bring peace—echoes ancient wisdom. It’s what the **Stoics** meant by “amor fati” (love of fate) and what **Buddhism** teaches through non-attachment. It’s not about passive resignation, but radical presence: *to meet life as it is without flinching*.

    When we stop resisting discomfort, we reclaim the energy spent on avoidance and denial. That energy becomes available for deeper living.

    —

    ### 🧭 **2. Values and Meaning:**

    Choosing what to suffer for isn’t just good advice—it’s the foundation of a meaningful life. Everyone experiences pain, but pain that serves a purpose becomes fuel, not a wound. Think of **Viktor Frankl’s** insight: “He who has a *why* to live can bear almost any *how*.”

    Manson reframes this for a modern audience numbed by comfort and distracted by choice. Instead of avoiding suffering, ask: *What is worth suffering for?*

    —

    ### 🪞 **3. The Death of the Ego:**

    The idea that “you’re not special” sounds harsh, but it’s liberating. If we let go of the ego’s demands for validation and exceptionalism, we’re free to live more authentically. You don’t have to prove anything. You just have to *be*—and become better, one honest decision at a time.

    This isn’t self-loathing—it’s ego transcendence. The self gets quieter so that truth can speak louder.

    —

    ### 🧱 **4. The Growth Blueprint:**

    Action creates momentum. Not the other way around. Waiting for motivation is like waiting for the tide to carry you to shore when you have oars in your hand.

    Manson’s insight that you can *act your way into motivation* rather than think your way into action is deeply empowering. It turns life from a passive movie into a creative project—one failure, one effort, one “not giving a f\*ck” at a time.

    —

    ### 💀 **5. Memento Mori:**

    Death isn’t the end—it’s the compass. When we live with the reality of death before us, we prioritize better. We stop sweating the superficial and start investing in what outlasts us: love, legacy, service, and depth.

    So the final insight? **Don’t numb. Don’t overthink. Don’t flinch.** Accept your limits. Choose your suffering. Let death clarify your values. And care deeply—but about the right things.

  • some examples of purported miraculous healings

    The Congregation for the Causes of Saints (now part of the Dicastery for the Causes of Saints) investigates and approves miracles used in the canonization (sainthood) process in the Catholic Church. These miracles are typically medically inexplicable healings attributed to the intercession of a candidate for sainthood.

    Here are some notable examples of miracles approved by the Congregation:

    🩺 1. Healing of Marie Simon-Pierre (Pope John Paul II’s cause)

    Year: 2005

    Condition: Advanced Parkinson’s disease

    Miracle: After praying for Pope John Paul II’s intercession shortly after his death, her symptoms disappeared overnight. Neurological tests confirmed the disease had inexplicably vanished.

    Significance: This healing was used for John Paul II’s beatification in 2011.

    🩺 2. Healing of Floribeth Mora Diaz (John Paul II’s canonization)

    Year: 2011

    Condition: Inoperable brain aneurysm

    Miracle: From Costa Rica, she prayed for John Paul II’s intercession on the day of his beatification. Her aneurysm disappeared without surgery.

    Significance: Approved as the miracle for John Paul II’s canonization in 2014.

    🩺 3. Healing of a newborn (Mother Teresa’s cause)

    Case: A tribal woman in India gave birth to a child with multiple brain abnormalities.

    Miracle: The child recovered suddenly after the family prayed to St. Teresa of Calcutta.

    Significance: Used for her canonization in 2016.

    🩺 4. Healing of a Brazilian man (Fulton Sheen’s cause)

    Year: 2010

    Condition: Stillborn baby, no heartbeat for 61 minutes

    Miracle: After prayers for the intercession of Archbishop Fulton Sheen, the baby revived suddenly without brain damage.

    Significance: Approved miracle for Sheen’s beatification (though it has since been delayed).

    🩺 5. Healing of a woman with tuberculosis (St. André Bessette)

    Year: Early 20th century

    Condition: Tuberculosis of the spine (Pott’s disease)

    Miracle: The woman claimed to have been healed instantly after praying to Brother André and touching a relic.

    Significance: One of the miracles used for his canonization in 2010.

    How the Vatican verifies miracles:

    Strict medical review by independent doctors

    No natural explanation must be possible

    Instant, complete, and lasting healing required

    Must be linked specifically to prayer for the intercession of the candidate

  • required threshold of faith for christians to be saved is not clear

    required threshhold of faith required for Christians to be saved is not clear, the requirements are either too vague, or too listy/dogmatic.

    the bible says if you confess with your mouth jesus is lord, and beleive in your heart that he was raised from the dead you will be saved. it also say if you believe in the lord you will be saved. it also has all kinds of other statements.i’m sure if you do these, that is sufficient. but what about various other scenarios, like the content of ‘sinner’s prayers’ that dont include those things?what or where exactly is the threshhold?if you believe he existed or is God is that enough? probably not cause the bible says demons do likewise.what about a list of of common beleifs? that you rely on him generally, that he is your savior, that you are a sinner, that he is lord, tha he rose from the dead, that he was incarnated, that he is God, that he is the son of God, that you believe you are saved (plenty of christians say you must believe you are saved, or you aren’t saved), substitutionary atonement v ‘christus victor’ etc etc.ask different christians, get a different answer, almost every time. they just have ‘gut feelings’ but dont have firm answers. you’ll note a different answer pretty much every time.some say you have to admit you’re a sinner and that he is your savior. what if you believed all the other things and not these? or what if you believe you’re a sinner, and that he’s a savior, but not that he’s God, or a various type of atonement belief. eg, chrsitaus victor v substitutionary.some say that he is God is required, some say legal substitution is mandatory.and how do you demarcate the requirements for those who are new to the faith, and those who are really knowledgeable? it might be seen a okay for a newbie to miss a thing or two, but less understandable for the expreinced etc. does this come into play?so what’s the magical formula?

    while I can’t claim an objective answer to this, only God knows and God surely has a merciful approach to it. I do feel for practical purposes the best answer is that the threshold for true Christians is that we must rely on Jesus. That is central. All the bible verses seem to circle around this theme.

  • can god create a rock so big that he cannot lift it? he can do one or the other but not at the same time

    Can an Omnipotent God create a rock he cannot lift? it is said that If one answers yes to the question, then God is therefore not omnipotent because he cannot lift the rock, but if one answers no to the question, God is no longer omnipotent because he cannot create the rock.my position is that he can do one or the other, at different times, but he can’t do both at the same time. and, that he can’t do both at the same time doesn’t disprove God as omnipotent.

    to answer this, we need to ask another question. what happens when an immovable rock meets the unstoppable force of God?the issue– the paradox arises because it rests on two premises- that there exist such things as immovable rocks and unstoppable forces – which cannot both be true at once. If there exists an unstoppable force, it follows logically that there cannot be any such thing as an immovable rock, and vice versa.so the key then is “at once”. to ask if God can create both scenarios at once is a logical impossibility. God cannot do the logically impossible.if God creates the immovable rock, he cannot be an unstoppable force. and if God acts as the unstoppable force, he cannot create an immovable rock. he must choose which scenario exists at any given time. and, in fact, the fact that he would be able to choose the scenario, highlights the underlying omnipotence of God to begin with.to highlight the time element. if God made a rock that could not be lifted for a week, then for a week he could not lift it. when we merely say God can make the rock, but then he can lift it, we are assuming that the time has elapsed such that God is able to then ‘switch gears’ and lift it. when we add a time element such as “a week” it highlights that there are in fact restrictions if God makes that rock.we have to suppose that God knows what he’s doing when he makes decisions like that to prevent lifting it for a week. and, this is a matter of consistency…. it is like dropping a ball or not. i can say i won’t drop a ball, and if i am consistent as i would imagine God is, then i won’t drop the ball. if he creates the rock, whether or not he can lift it, he probably won’t lift it for as long as he says he won’t. not that he couldn’t.

    i think at the end of the day you can say God can both make the rock and lift it, if your premise is right that God can be illogical. but that’s another debate. i’m assuming God must be logical. 

    it’s sort of like asking. “can the unlimited limit itself? if you answer yes, then it’s not truly unlimited, though if you answer no it’s still not unlimited”. i call that the ‘unlimited paradox’

  • unlimited paradox: can an unlimited thing then limit itself?

    if you answer that the entity can limit itself, then you are saying it’s not truly unlimited. yet, if you answer that the entity can’t limit itself, it’s still not unlimited. it’s a paradox.

    if unlimited entities exist, how do you reconcile this paradox?

    or, if you think about existence and the universe as we know it, we know it is all finite, so maybe that plus the paradox are indicators that unlimited things just don’t exist?

  • confederate statues shouldn’t be honored

    history.com and all the academic websites say the ciivil war was about slavery. hisotyr.com says if you asked people back then what the war was about, they’d say slavery. that means the only difference between germany erecting statues of hitler and the south raising confederates, is that one fought for genocide and the other fought for slavery. that’s also why it’s not like the statues of washington,… he just happened to have a slave, but he’s known for a lot of other good things. if the south had other decent reasons for the war then it would be like washington- it’d be like if the usa lost the revolutionary war yet kept statues of washington. but that isn’t the reality we are dealing with. people engage in revisionist thinking, and anachronistically say the war was about states’ rights looking back on it, but that’s not what the people or the leaders said was the reason for the war. 

    “Our position is thoroughly identified with the institution of slavery ” the greatest material interest of the world,” proclaimed Mississippi in its articles of war

    it should also be pointed out, that a plurality if not a majority of momuments were erected during jim crow and the civil rights movement. that means they were promoting suppresion of the black man with those monuments. it’s not possible to say even the original intention of the monuments have good intentions.

    even a confederate leader in his later years after the war denounced revisionist ideas that the war was about more than slavery…. (also in the following is an editorial about why we shouldn’t honor confederate monuments)

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    “”Whatever else I may forget,” the ex-slave and abolitionist Frederick Douglass said in 1894, “I shall never forget the difference between those who fought for liberty and those who fought for slavery.” Douglass (who is doing an amazing job and is being recognized more and more) deplored an emerging national consensus that the Civil War had been fought over vague philosophical disagreements about federalism and states” rights, but not over the core issue of slavery. In this retelling, neither side was right or wrong, and both Confederate and Union soldiers were to be celebrated for their battlefield valor.

    Douglass was right to be concerned. Southerners may have lost the Civil War, but between the 1890s and 1920s they won the first great battle over its official memory. They fought that battle in popular literature, history books and college curricula, but also on hundreds of courthouse steps and city squares, where they erected monuments to Confederate veterans and martyrs. These statues reinforced the romance of reunion.

    Now, a century and a half after the Civil War, Americans are finally confronting the propriety of celebrating the lives of men who committed treason in the name of preserving slavery. That these statues even exist is unusual. When armies are defeated on their own soil”particularly when those armies fight to promote racist or genocidal policies”they usually don”t get to keep their symbols and material culture. As some commentators have noted, Germany in 1945 is a useful comparison. “Flags were torn down while defeated cities still burned, even as citizens crawling from the rubble were just realizing that the governments they represented had ended,” wrote a reporter for McClatchy. Most physical relics of the Nazi regime were banished from public view. In this sense, the example of Germany”s post-war de-Nazification may offer a way forward for the United States.

    Yet history tells a more complicated story. In its initial years, de-Nazification had only limited impact. It would take time, generational change and external events to make Germany what it is today”a vibrant democracy that is notably less permissive of racism, extremism and fascism than the United States. Tearing down the symbols of Nazi terror was a necessary first step”but it didn”t ensure overnight political or cultural transformation. It required a longer process of public reconciliation with history for Germans to acknowledge their shared responsibility for the legacy of Nazism.

    The vast majority of Americans have long agreed that the destruction of slavery was a just outcome of the Civil War. But in continuing to honor Confederate leaders and deny their crimes, we signal that the United States has not yet fully come to terms with its collective responsibility for the dual sins of slavery and Jim Crow.”

    the following is a politifact article that is responding to people who claimed the war was about more than slavery as “obvious if you research it”. so politfact did research it, and came to the same conclusion that it was was about slavery….
    http://www.debate.org/forums/politics/topic/103590/3/#2870466