The Law of Love

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  • Healing, Hope, and Growth: A Christ-Centered Path Forward

    Healing, Hope, and Growth: A Christ-Centered Path Forward

    Life comes with trials—some external, others internal. Yet the Bible reminds us: “The testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:3-4)

    Suffering isn’t wasted in God’s economy. It builds character. It draws us into the peace and hope that only Christ can offer. But this transformation requires intentional healing and discipleship through the Word of God, the Holy Spirit, and the social support of the Church.

    Authentic Discipleship Begins With Us

    Before we can minister to others effectively, we must first be shaped by the very truths we proclaim. If we don’t apply Scripture deeply in our own lives, we lose authenticity—and our witness suffers. Practicing what we preach is not legalism—it’s integrity.

    We should challenge ourselves and others to begin memorizing important verses, especially if we don’t yet have a “memory bank” of Scripture to draw from. God’s Word transforms our minds and heals our hearts.

    Spot the Signs: Sin, Suffering, and the Root

    Helping others means learning to discern. Many people carry emotional wounds masked by vices or outward symptoms of sin. Depression, anger, or addiction can signal deeper issues. Rather than just treating the symptoms, we must seek the root.

    Part of this process means challenging perceptions shaped by the world or by internalized lies. Many believers live with condemnation, shame, and self-defeating thoughts. But Romans 8:1 tells us, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

    Yes, victims and survivors need to set boundaries. And yes, feelings of pain are normal. It’s okay to admit hurt—but we shouldn’t dwell forever in despair. The enemy wants to steal our joy, but Christ offers renewal.

    Encourage Spiritual Disciplines

    One way to build resilience and hope is through spiritual disciplines. These include:

    • Daily prayer
    • Bible reading and meditation
    • Journaling
    • Worship and fasting
    • Silence and solitude
    • Serving others

    Encourage others to engage in these practices regularly. For those who struggle to express emotions in person, suggest writing a letter—sometimes clarity and healing come through written words.

    Listen Before You Speak

    Most of our communication is non-verbal—tone and body language often matter more than words. That’s why listening well is a deeply spiritual act. It involves:

    • Making eye contact
    • Asking thoughtful questions
    • Avoiding distractions (especially phones)
    • Clarifying what someone says before offering solutions
    • Letting them know you care without rushing them

    Social media often erodes intimacy. Real connection requires presence.

    And after listening? Then respond—with grace, truth, and compassion.

    Respect confidentiality unless there’s an emergency or danger involved. People need to know they’re safe.

    Grow Together, Love Deeply

    None of us have it all figured out. We all need to grow—whether in patience, relational maturity, emotional regulation, or spiritual depth. Let’s give each other grace in the process.

    No one is always right—but everyone can be loved. The Church is a place for healing, not perfection.

    Share Truth Gently

    Some people may be angry at God. Others resist Scripture. That’s okay. You don’t have to argue. Often, people are open to prayer, even if they aren’t ready to hear a sermon. Let them know you’re praying for them. Share Scripture gently, in love.

    Help people be honest—with themselves, with others, and most importantly, with God. There’s no healing without truth.

    Identity: The Anchor in Every Storm

    In a world obsessed with self-identification, the most life-giving identity is being a follower of Jesus. Through Him, we are adopted into God’s family, chosen and loved. That truth changes everything.

    Let’s show the world the hope of redemption—not just through words, but through our presence, listening, truth, and love.

  • The Sacred Burden: Learning to Love Through Pain

    The Sacred Burden: Learning to Love Through Pain

    In a world filled with addiction, mental illness, broken families, death, disease, and hardship, the church is not meant to be a museum of saints—it is a hospital for sinners. Jesus didn’t avoid the broken; He moved toward them. He healed the blind, comforted the possessed, stood up for the adulterous woman, and walked alongside the hurting. As His followers, we’re called to do the same.

    We Are Comforted to Comfort Others

    The comfort we receive from God isn’t meant to stop with us—it’s meant to overflow. As Paul writes, “God comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” (2 Corinthians 1:4). Our suffering, and the comfort we receive through it, can become someone else’s hope.

    Pain is a teacher. It refines, shapes, and prepares us to walk beside others. Only those who have known deep sorrow can truly relate to others in their grief. God doesn’t waste our pain or our broken past—He redeems it.

    Burdens vs. Loads

    Scripture tells us to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2). But just two verses later, Paul says, “each one should carry their own load.” What’s the difference?

    A burden is something heavy, overwhelming—grief, mental illness, deep trauma. A load is more like a backpack—daily responsibilities, personal work, decisions. We are called to help with burdens, but not to remove someone’s load entirely. To carry someone’s load for them can do more harm than good, robbing them of the growth God intends.

    Care requires discernment. It’s a privilege to walk with others, not to “fix” them, but to love them. As one friend might say, “I can’t fix you, but I can point you to someone who can.”

    It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

    Church should be a safe place to bring brokenness. But too often, the wounded feel unwelcome. The truth is, divorce happens in the church just as outside it. So does depression, trauma, and dysfunction. Let’s break the silence: It’s okay to not be okay.

    Everyone has coping strategies: some avoid pain, others beg for relief, some cry, some manipulate, some people-please their way into toxic relationships. These behaviors are often attempts to earn love or protect from further hurt. But love isn’t earned—it’s given.

    We must treat emotions with respect. Crying releases stress. Tears can heal. Grief is not a flaw—it’s a human response to loss. There is no single way to grieve. It takes courage, time, and companions.

    Gifts of the Spirit and the Art of Caring

    Some are gifted in mercy, discernment, compassion, evangelism, or exhortation. These spiritual gifts are essential in a community of healing. But all of us are called to be teachable, to be lifelong learners, and to walk humbly as fellow travelers.

    Caring for others isn’t a checklist—it’s a calling. People are not tasks to be solved, but souls to be loved. That means protecting confidentiality, rejecting gossip, and refusing to use someone else’s pain to resolve our own. True maturity shows up in our willingness to be present without control.

    Practical Love in a Broken World

    Look around: the homeless, the mentally ill, the elderly, foster children, prisoners, single moms, the disabled. These are not charity projects—they are beloved. Jesus’ mission was to proclaim good news to the poor, freedom to prisoners, recovery of sight to the blind, and liberty to the oppressed (Luke 4:18).

    We are partners with God, not saviors. He does the healing—we simply show up with love. Help people process their emotions and point them to Jesus. That’s enough.

    Final Thoughts: Love Like Christ

    To love like Christ is to walk alongside others—not above them. It is to bear burdens, not rescue; to serve, not fix; to be available, not invasive. And always, always, to trust that all things work together for good—not because pain is good, but because God is.

    So take heart. You are loved. You are adopted by God. And the grace that found you is the same grace you now carry to others.

  • Love, Service, and the science of meaning: from great acts of saints to small acts of service

    **The Christian Path: Love, Service, and the Science of Meaning**

    Many people today wrestle with questions of meaning and purpose. Studies suggest that up to 85% of people report struggling to find a deeper sense of direction in life. Yet for Christians, the answer is surprisingly clear: the *meaning* of life is to **love**, and the *purpose* is to **serve**.

    This call to love and serve is not abstract—it is deeply practical and endlessly needed. The world is full of opportunities to help, from addressing poverty to offering a listening ear. The science of happiness echoes this: true satisfaction doesn’t come from chasing ego-driven pleasures, but from facing real challenges and contributing to something greater than oneself. In this light, helping others becomes not just a moral duty, but the very path to joy and fulfillment.

    Yet, this task is never-ending. As Jesus said, “The poor you will always have with you.” This is not resignation, but realism. The needs around us—material, relational, and emotional—are constant. Christians must set healthy boundaries to avoid burnout, but they must also accept the nature of the mission: to love and serve in a broken world, knowing it will never be fully “fixed” in this life.

    Near-death experience (NDE) philosophy adds another layer of insight. It suggests that the illusion of separation is what causes so much suffering, that we are separate from god and each other —and that being fully present, engaged, and compassionate is how we heal it. Whether the need is financial, emotional, or communal, the world calls for healing, and we are called to respond.

    Importantly, it’s not only the grand gestures of saints that change the world. Jesus himself emphasized the power of **small acts of love**—washing the feet of his disciples, blessing children, feeding the hungry. Great power brings great responsibility, yes—but everyone, regardless of their status or strength, can answer the call to love.

    Whether you’re tackling systemic issues or simply comforting a friend, **you are living your purpose**. Every moment of genuine love and service participates in something eternal.—

  • Did the Apostles Really Die as Martyrs for their Faith?

    Did the Apostles Really Die as Martyrs for their Faith?

    Sean McDowell — November 04, 2013

    “Even though they were crucified, stoned, stabbed, dragged, skinned and burned, every last apostle of Jesus proclaimed his resurrection until his dying breath, refusing to recant under pressure from the authorities. Therefore, their testimony is trustworthy and the resurrection is true.”

    If you have followed popular–level arguments for the resurrection (or ever heard a sermon on the apostles), you’ve likely heard this argument. Growing up I heard it regularly and found it quite convincing. After all, why would the apostles of Jesus have died for their faith if it weren’t true?

    Yet the question was always in the back of my mind — how do we really know they died as martyrs? For the past couple years I have been researching this question as part of my doctoral dissertation. And what I have found is fascinating!

    While we can have more confidence in the martyrdoms of apostles such as Peter, Paul and James the brother of John (and probably Thomas and Andrew), there is much less evidence for many of the others (such as Matthias and James, son of Alphaeus). This evidence is late and filled with legendary accretion. This may come as a disappointment to some, but for the sake of the resurrection argument, it is not critical that we demonstrate that all of them died as martyrs. What is critical is their willingness to suffer for their faith and the lack of a contrary story that any of them recanted.

    Historian Michael Licona captures the key point in his book The Resurrection of Jesus: A New Historiographical Approach: “After Jesus’ death, the disciples endured persecution, and a number of them experienced martyrdom. The strength of their conviction indicates that they were not just claiming Jesus had appeared to them after rising from the dead. They really believed it. They willingly endangered themselves by publicly proclaiming the risen Christ.”

    Here are the key facts:First, the apostles were eyewitnesses of the risen Jesus. When a replacement was chosen for Judas, one necessary criterion was that the person had seen the risen Lord (Acts 1:21–22). Paul and James the brother of Jesus were also eyewitnesses (1 Cor. 15:3–8). Their convictions were not based on secondhand testimony, but from the belief that they had seen the resurrected Christ with their own eyes. This makes the disciples’ willingness to die different from Muslim martyrs, who certainly sincerely believe in Islam, but base their belief on secondhand testimony.Second, early Christians were persecuted for their faith. John the Baptist was imprisoned and beheaded (Matt. 14:1–11). Jesus was crucified. Stephen was stoned to death after his witness before the Sanhedrin (Acts 6–8). And Herod Agrippa killed James the brother of John (Acts 12:12), which led to the departure of the rest of the Twelve from Jerusalem. The first statewide persecution of Christians was under Nero (AD 64), as reported by Tacitus (Annals 15.44:2–5) and Suetonius (Nero 16.2). Although persecution was sporadic and local, from this point forward Christians could be arrested and killed for proclaiming the name of Jesus. And many of them were.Third, the apostles were willing to suffer for their faith. This is certainly true of Paul, who recounts the suffering he endured, which included being whipped, beaten, stoned, shipwrecked, near starvation and in danger from various people and places (2 Cor. 6:4–9). Speaking for the apostles, after being threatened by the religious leaders, Peter and John say, “For we cannot but speak of what we have seen and heard” (Acts 4:20). The apostles are then thrown in prison, beaten for their faith, but they continued to preach and teach the gospel (Acts 5:17–42).

    While the evidence of martyrdom is far better for some of the apostles than others, the evidence for Peter is particularly strong. The earliest evidence is found in John 21:18–19, which was written about 30 years after Peter’s death. Bart Ehrman, in his book Peter, Paul, & Mary Magdalene: The Followers of Jesus in History and Legend, agrees that Peter is being told he will die as a martyr. Other evidence for Peter’s martyrdom can be found in early church fathers such as Clement of Rome, Ignatius, Dionysius of Corinth, Irenaeus, Tertullian and more. The early, consistent and unanimous testimony is that Peter died as a martyr.

    This does not prove that the resurrection is true. But it shows the depth of the apostles’ convictions. They were not liars. They truly believed Jesus rose from the grave and they were willing to give their lives for it.

    Sean McDowell (’98, M.A. ’03) is a popular author and speaker, and the newest faculty member in Biola’s M.A. program in Christian apologetics

  • unteachable lessons: christian spirituality and the wisdom of the afterlife cannot always be taught with words – often it must be experienced through living.

    Often words get in the way.

    This captures something essential about the paradox of spiritual formation—how the most transformative lessons aren’t taught in a classroom or written in a manual but are lived into, often through tension, mystery, and what feels like failure or unknowing.

    Unteachable Lessons

    Some lessons cannot be taught—they can only be lived. This is the paradox at the heart of Christian spirituality, the journey of faith, and the wisdom echoed in near-death experiences (NDEs). Words can point to truth, but they are only fingers pointing at the moon. They are not the moon.

    Like an artist who cannot explain their work except through the work itself, spiritual truth often eludes explanation. You cannot know what it feels like to ride a bike until you’ve ridden it. In the same way, you cannot know the depths of compassion, surrender, or divine presence simply by reading about them.

    Near-death experiences affirm this: this life is a school, not of information, but of transformation. In the most general sense, this life is about ‘experience’ – we are the universe experiencing and discovering itself, and we are co-creators in the canvass of the universe. It’s also a crash course in learning through the illusion of separation, where the very fabric of life’s complication and chaos becomes the context for spiritual growth. In this world, we face what cannot be planned. We are given the opportunity not just to hear about love or trust, but to be broken open by them. We cant just be taught this stuff in the afterlife, we learn by experiencing… that’s why the opportunity to live this life is so important, and it’s why reports of souls being keen to live this life is so important to them, it’s a crash course in spiritual development.

    When we possess knowledge or wisdom in a more spiritually developed sense, all we can do as Christians is plant a seed in others. As is often mentioned in christian spirituality. Such as spreading the gospel, but also even extending to all aspects of spiritual life.

    As was taught in the book “unteachable lessons”, the author explains, ”i wish i could explain it. I wish i could analyze the process and chart the step by step journey from narcissism to compassion. But it isn’t anything that neat and tidy, and there’s no making it tidy, either” “{…} there’s no building this down to ‘seven steps to learn compassion’ or ‘action plans for a post selfish life’. Some lessons are simply unteachable lessons. “I’ve come to see that unteachable lessons are available to just about all of us- and i suspect that the more we need these unteachable lessons, the more likely they are to show up in our lives. Maybe they don’t always entail suffering and loss, but I suspect they always involve some sort of deep interior transformation that is messy and just can’t be put into words.

    These are the lessons taught to  us in silence, and the curriculum is life, the syllabus is nothing more than our willingness to be present.”

    These are truths learned not by the mind alone, but by the soul—truths carved in silence, written in the ink of lived experience.

  • Meaning, Purpose, and Happiness in Life: A Christian and NDE Perspective

    Meaning, Purpose, and Happiness in Life: A Christian and NDE Perspective

    As Christians, we believe the meaning of life is to love, and the purpose of life is to serve. These are not just theological concepts, but practical truths that shape how we live each day.

    From the broader lens of Near-Death Experience (NDE) philosophy, the purpose of life is understood as to experience. Many who have had NDEs describe this world as a place where souls grow by engaging with the illusion of separation—from God, from one another, and from the unity of all things. In this framework, we are seen as the universe becoming conscious of itself, each of us participating in a grand unfolding.

    We are invited to be co-creators with God, approaching Him freely through faith. This journey is not one of coercion; God does not force belief. Instead, He gently draws us through the beauty and mystery woven into our lives. Creation itself whispers of the divine, and faith becomes our willing response to that call.

    Jesus taught that the greatest commandments are to love God and to love others (Matthew 22:37–39). Traditional Christian theology affirms that we are created to love God in this life and to be united with Him in eternal joy. But Jesus’ teachings also reveal that this isn’t just a future hope—it’s a present way of life. His call to love and serve isn’t only a command; it’s an invitation to participate in the divine pattern of being.

    So we can say with confidence: the meaning of life is to love God, and the purpose of life is to serve others.

    And yet, many people—Christian and non-Christian alike—struggle to find purpose. In fact, studies suggest that about 85% of people report feeling aimless or unclear about their deeper meaning in life. Many fall into a repetitive cycle: work, downtime, repeat—constantly chasing the next high, the next distraction, the next pleasure, while avoiding discomfort and struggle.

    This cycle is often described as the hedonic treadmill—a pattern where temporary pleasures give brief satisfaction, but never lasting fulfillment. Even many secular philosophers agree that our true purpose goes beyond fleeting happiness; it lies in maximizing the well-being of others. Christians echo this insight, though we understand it in terms of love, sacrifice, and spiritual discipline.

    Modern culture tends to define happiness in egocentric terms—what makes me feel good in the moment. But true happiness, both from a Christian and NDE-informed perspective, is altruistic. It’s found in self-giving love, in meaningful service, and in the quiet joy of aligning ourselves with something greater than our own desires.

    In the end, happiness is not the absence of struggle, but the presence of purpose. And for those who follow Christ, that purpose is clear: to love deeply and to serve faithfully.


    These ideas offer a deep reflection that can be beautifully unpacked using NDE philosophy, Christian spirituality, and the Bible. Each reinforces a vision of life’s meaning as rooted not in self-centered pleasure, but in self-giving love and service. Here’s a breakdown:

    🔹 1. NDE Philosophy: From Separation to Unity Through Love and Experience

    Many who experience Near-Death Experiences (NDEs) report the following insights:

    ❖ Life is about love and growth through experience.

    NDErs often say, “We are here to learn how to love.” Life is a classroom for the soul—where every interaction is an opportunity to choose compassion, forgiveness, and truth.

    “Our purpose in life according to NDE philosophy is to experience. We are the universe experiencing itself. This life involves the illusion of separation, from the unity of the whole.”

    This reflects what many NDE survivors report: that on the other side, all is one. Here, in physical life, we feel separate so we can freely choose love and awaken to our shared divinity.

    “We are called to be co-creators with God…”

    Many NDErs affirm that we participate with God in shaping reality. Creation is not just past tense—it’s ongoing, and we are invited into the creative dance of love, beauty, and goodness.

    🔹 2. Christian Spirituality: Love and Service as the Core

    The passage says:

    “The meaning of life is to love God and the purpose of life is to serve others.”

    This is the very heartbeat of Jesus’ teachings:

    📖 Great Commandment

    “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
    — Matthew 22:37–39

    These are not just commands—they are an invitation into a new way of being. A way of life. A calling.

    📖 Jesus as Servant

    “The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
    — Matthew 20:28

    Jesus models the spiritual principle echoed in both NDE and Christian teachings: love = service.

    🔹 3. Faith Without Coercion: Mystery and Freedom

    “When we create and approach him through faith, we are not being forced to accept a truth. There is no coercion—only encouragement from the mysteries that we see.”

    This is key. God doesn’t manipulate belief. He invites relationship. He leaves space for mystery, wonder, and personal freedom.

    📖 Romans 1:20

    “For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities… have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.”

    Creation and conscience draw us toward the Creator—not through force, but through awe, beauty, and love.

    This theme also resonates with many NDErs, who describe being shown their life review with total love—not judgmentally, but as a chance to learn, awaken, and grow.

    🔹 4. The Hedonic Treadmill vs. Altruistic Joy

    “Most people struggle with purpose… chasing the next high, the next pleasure… stuck on the hedonic treadmill.”

    This criticism of modern life mirrors both spiritual traditions and NDE insights. Pleasure isn’t wrong—but when it becomes the goal, it leads to emptiness.

    📖 Ecclesiastes 2:10-11

    “I denied myself nothing my eyes desired… Yet when I surveyed all… everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind.”

    Solomon tried it all—and concluded that reverence and love of God was the only lasting meaning (Eccl. 12:13).

    “True happiness is altruistic.”

    This conclusion is echoed in:

    📖 Acts 20:35

    “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

    And in modern psychology, where studies repeatedly show that service, kindness, and meaning bring more lasting happiness than wealth or pleasure.

    🔹 5. Christian Purpose: A Clear Call in a Confused World

    “For Christians, purpose should be easy.”

    This is both an encouragement and a challenge. In a world where 85% of people say they struggle to find meaning, Christians are given a clear map:

    • Love God with everything.
    • Serve others as if they were Christ.
    • Grow in grace as co-creators in the Kingdom.

    This isn’t simplistic—it’s profound. Every person is a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:19), and every moment is a chance to embody love.

    🔹 Final Synthesis

    You’ve captured a profound truth, deeply aligned with both NDE experiences and the gospel:

    • Life is not about escaping suffering, but transforming it through love.
    • Faith is not coercion, but response to mystery.
    • Purpose isn’t hidden—it’s lived out in every act of love and service.

    📖 Micah 6:8

    “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly, and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

    That is meaning.
    That is purpose.
    That is both the way and the destination.

  • There’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?

    “We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough, and we’ll be more content when they are.
    After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire.
    The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
    Your life will always be filled with challenges.
    It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
    A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said,
    “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
    This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
    So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…and remember that time waits for no one.
    So, stop waiting until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until winter, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink…. there is no better time than right now to be happy.
    Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
    Work like you don’t need money,
    Love like you’ve never been hurt,
    And dance like no one’s watching.”

    1. NDE Philosophy: Living in the Eternal Now

    People who have NDEs often return with a deeply transformed view of time and purpose. They frequently report that:

    • Time as we know it feels illusory in the spiritual realm. The present is all that truly exists.
    • Unconditional love, joy, and meaning are accessible now, not delayed until future milestones.
    • Life’s purpose is not about achieving but about being: being loving, present, awake.

    This aligns directly with:

    “The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?”

    Many NDErs realize that the frantic striving we engage in—waiting for the “right” time to live or be joyful—is an illusion. Real life is happening now, and soul-growth occurs not in ideal conditions, but through our response to imperfection and challenge.

    They come back knowing:

    “These obstacles were my life.”
    The journey, with its hardship, is the sacred process.

    2. Christian Spirituality: Joy in the Present, Trust in God’s Providence

    Christian spirituality teaches a similar theme: God is present here, now—not just in some idealized future.

    Biblical Verses That Echo These Themes:

    • Ecclesiastes 3:1, 12-13 “There is a time for everything… I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.”
      ➤ Life’s beauty is not in waiting, but in embracing each season with gratitude.
    • Matthew 6:34 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
      ➤ Jesus calls us to be present, not paralyzed by an imagined future.
    • Philippians 4:11-13 “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances… I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
      ➤ True joy and contentment are found in Christ, not conditions.
    • Psalm 118:24 “This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”
      ➤ Not tomorrow—this day is holy.

    3. The False Promise of “When…” and the Spiritual Illusion of Arrival

    “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin… then it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

    Both NDEs and Christian spirituality expose the lie that happiness or spiritual peace will “start” after we reach a milestone. This is a form of spiritual consumerism—treating peace and joy as a product to be earned, rather than a gift to be received.

    In NDE accounts, souls often learn that how we live—our intentions, love, compassion—is more important than what we achieve. This echoes the teaching of Jesus:

    • Luke 17:21 “The kingdom of God is within you.”
      ➤ The joy, peace, and divine connection we seek isn’t “out there”—it’s already available in the heart, right now.

    4. Embracing the Moment with Love and Courage

    “Happiness is a journey, not a destination.”

    This line encapsulates Christian and NDE truth. Both affirm that:

    • The present is the only real opportunity we have to love.
    • Love is a verb—an action, a dance, a gift—not a future state.

    In fact, the most common message reported by people after NDEs is this:

    “What matters most is how we love each other. Love is the reason for everything.”

    So the exhortation to:

    “Love like you’ve never been hurt. Dance like no one’s watching…”

    …reflects kingdom living. Jesus’ entire ministry modeled joy in suffering, love in betrayal, and presence with the least and the lost.

    Final Synthesis:

    This is a profoundly spiritual wake-up call. It resonates with:

    • NDE insights: The sacredness of the moment, the call to live and love now, not later.
    • Christian wisdom: Contentment in God’s presence, trust amid trials, and love as the highest calling.
    • Biblical truth: Repeated emphasis that the “now” is holy ground.

    Encouragement for the Soul:

    So today—don’t wait for life to be perfect.
    Let love flow now. Let joy dance now.
    Let Christ be born in you today—not after the bills are paid or the kids behave.

    “Choose life so that you and your descendants may live” (Deuteronomy 30:19)

    And to borrow the words of Jesus:

    “I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10)

    That life begins not in some future ideal, but in the surrendered, radiant now.

  • is love inherently self sacrificial in NDEs and Christianity? And is it more about ‘being’ or ‘doing’?

    That it strives towards altruism maybe even?This doesn’t seem like it should be controversial, but I know nde philosophy can subvert conventional philosophy and maybe you would say something like love ‘just is’ and not put qualifiers on it.I know one point that I think helps explain meaning and purpose on life, is some folks focus more on ‘being’ and some on ‘doing’. A purpose to be, versus to do. I would wanna say doing is loving and that’s sacrificial but being is just existing and something like being an artist instead of a saint.My bias is towards Christianity too, cause they say love embraces suffering while Buddhism avoids suffering. But even with this, Buddhism focuses on being even if Christianity focuses on doing

    This reflection goes deep into the tension between *being* and *doing*, *suffering* and *transcendence*, *love as action* versus *love as essence*. And you’re right: NDE (near-death experience) philosophy, especially when compared to traditional theology or philosophy, tends to dissolve hard categories. It often leaves us with paradoxes, not propositions.

    Let’s unpack this through a few lenses:—### ❖ **Love: Does It Strive Toward Altruism?**

    You’re right to question whether love *“just is”* or whether it must strive, do, or sacrifice to be real. Many NDE accounts describe love as **the fundamental fabric of existence**—not just something we do, but what we *are made of*. So in that sense:

    * **Being = love** (ontological reality).

    * **Doing = love in motion** (ethical or relational expression).

    But here’s the trick: in many NDEs, even **”being” love** results in radical compassion and service. It’s as though once people wake up to what they really are, they *can’t help but act in love*. So the doing flows out of the being, naturally. It’s not coerced.

    —### ❖ **Christianity vs. Buddhism: Action or Detachment?**

    You’re not alone in feeling Christianity emphasizes **doing/loving through suffering**, while Buddhism emphasizes **being/non-attachment to avoid suffering**.

    **Christianity** says:

    * Love suffers with others (e.g., *”Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends”* – John 15:13).

    * Purpose often involves *sacrifice, vocation, calling*.

    * Even God *does* love (incarnation, crucifixion, resurrection).

    **Buddhism** says:

    * Love is **metta** (loving-kindness), but rooted in *equanimity*, *impermanence*, *non-clinging*.

    * Purpose is to wake up to being—not to fix the world, but to *see clearly*.

    * Suffering arises from attachment, so avoid clinging—even to outcomes of love.

    Yet, many **Bodhisattvas** in Mahayana Buddhism *do suffer* for others, and choose to return again and again to help. So even Buddhism has its *doing in being*.

    —### ❖ **Being an Artist vs. Being a Saint**

    You said:> “Being is just existing and something like being an artist instead of a saint.”That’s a fascinating contrast. And maybe it’s not either/or.* The **artist** reveals beauty, truth, or the divine through *presence, perception, and expression*.* The **saint** sacrifices, loves, and heals through *compassion, courage, and discipline*.

    But the best saints are artists of the soul, and the best artists are saints of attention. In other words, true purpose might blend both: contemplative **being** that overflows into transformative **doing**.

    —### ❖ **Back to NDEs: Mission as Love**Many NDErs return saying:

    *“The purpose of life is to love.”*That love may take the form of a job, caregiving, writing poetry, cleaning houses, praying for the world, or quietly being a peaceful presence in a chaotic place. Sometimes, *doing nothing* in the worldly sense, but being *deeply present*—that *is* the mission.

    —### ✦ Summary Reflection

    You’re onto something with the contrast between “being” and “doing,” but perhaps they aren’t separate poles.> “Being is the root. Doing is the fruit.”And when love is real, it doesn’t stay still. It doesn’t need to strive in a burdensome way, but it does naturally move outward. Whether through the path of the saint or the artist, love ultimately expresses itself—not out of duty, but because that’s what it *is*.

    Let’s take the theme—**being vs. doing, love as essence vs. action, and how this ties to meaning and purpose**—and walk through it using both **Scripture** and **philosophy**.

    —

    ## 🕊️ **SCRIPTURE: BEING & DOING IN LOVE**

    ### 1. **Love as Essence (Being)**

    > “God is love.” – *1 John 4:8*

    This isn’t saying God *has* love or *does* love, but that **God’s very being is love**. Love is ontological here—foundational to existence. This points to “being.”

    And we, made in God’s image, share that nature:

    > “In Him we live and move and have our being.” – *Acts 17:28*

    This suggests that our truest identity is not in action or status, but in *union with God’s loving essence*.

    —

    ### 2. **Love as Action (Doing)**

    > “Let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.” – *1 John 3:18*

    And:

    > “Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.” – *James 2:17*

    Here love (and even belief) *must express itself*. It must be lived. Jesus didn’t just preach; He *healed, suffered, wept, died*. Action is not just a product—it’s an inseparable part of love.

    —

    ### 3. **Jesus: The Fusion of Being and Doing**

    Jesus repeatedly *withdrew to lonely places* to pray and be with the Father (being), but then *returned to crowds*, feeding, healing, teaching (doing).

    The Transfiguration (Matthew 17) is a striking moment of **pure being**—glory, stillness—but it’s followed immediately by a return to a broken world. The message seems to be: *we go up the mountain to be, we come down to serve.*

    —

    ## 🧠 **PHILOSOPHY: BEING VS DOING**

    ### 1. **Aristotle: The Telos of a Thing**

    Aristotle said everything has a *telos* (purpose), and the telos of humans is **eudaimonia**—flourishing through *virtuous activity of the soul*. It’s a union of being and doing.

    * You flourish not just by existing, but by *doing what you were made for.*

    * But this “doing” is tied to your nature (*being*)—you don’t force it, you fulfill it.

    —

    ### 2. **Existentialists: You Create Meaning by Doing**

    Sartre: “Existence precedes essence.”

    This view flips things: you aren’t born with a predefined essence; you make yourself through your actions. Your *doing* shapes your *being*.

    Christian critique: While empowering, this can neglect grace and the gift of being. In Scripture, you’re not just what you make—you’re *already loved*.

    —

    ### 3. **Mystics and Contemplatives (Christian + Buddhist)**

    Christian mystics like **Meister Eckhart** or **St. John of the Cross** emphasize union with God in silence, stillness, surrender—being.

    Buddhists similarly teach **non-doing**, awakening to the present moment.

    Yet both traditions birth compassionate action:

    > “The soul that is united with God must do His works.” – *Teresa of Avila*

    This mirrors the NDE theme: **being overflows into loving action**, not out of pressure, but because love wants to love.

    —

    ## 🧩 **SO WHAT IS PURPOSE? TO BE OR TO DO?**

    It may not be either/or. Here’s a synthesis:

    | Aspect | Being | Doing |

    | ————— | ———————————- | ——————————– |

    | **Root** | Identity in God | Expression of love |

    | **Mode** | Presence, stillness, contemplation | Service, sacrifice, creativity |

    | **Trap** | Passive detachment | Burnout or pride |

    | **Integration** | Union with love itself | Embodying that love in the world |

    > “Abide in me… and you will bear much fruit.” – *John 15:5*

    We **abide** (being), then we **bear fruit** (doing). If we reverse it, we risk striving without soul.

    —

    ## 🔔 Final Reflection

    If your soul leans toward *doing as sacrificial love* (Christian view), and wrestles with *being as passive or self-indulgent*, consider this:

    > “The world doesn’t need more people who are busy. It needs people who are fully alive.”

    > – *Howard Thurman (Christian mystic)*

    To love well is to live deeply. And to live deeply, you must root yourself in being. The best doing flows from that.

    Here’s a **spiritual-philosophical framework** that draws from **Scripture**, **NDEs**, **Christian theology**, and **philosophy**, especially around the core polarity of **being vs. doing**.

    —## 🌿 The “Love as Being and Doing” Framework### 🧱

    **1. Ontology: What Is Love?****Key Question:** Is love something you do or something you *are*?| Perspective | Description | Representative Voices || ———– | ——————————————————————————————————– | —————————————————– || **Being** | Love is the foundational reality of existence. You are made in God’s image—love is your truest identity. | 1 John 4:8, Acts 17:28, Meister Eckhart, NDEs ||

    **Doing** | Love is defined through sacrifice, action, and service. If not expressed, it’s not truly love. | James 2:17, John 15:13, Teresa of Calcutta, Aristotle |>

    **Tension:** If you only “are” love but never *act* on it, is it still love?

    —### 🌀 **2. Purpose: To Be or To Do?****Key Question:** What is the meaning of life—existence or mission?| Purpose Type | Description | Strengths | Risks || —————– | —————————————————————————- | —————————— | ———————— || **Being-Purpose** | You are here to experience, awaken, and radiate God’s love through presence. | Peace, authenticity, inner joy | Passivity, disengagement ||

    **Doing-Purpose** | You are here to serve, heal, sacrifice, or accomplish a mission of love.

    | Impact, virtue, legacy | Burnout, ego attachment |>

    NDEs often say: *“You are sent back to love”*—but how that love manifests differs by soul.

    —### 🪞 **3. Identity: Who Am I in Love?****Key Question:** Is my worth rooted in *what I do* or *who I am*?

    * **Christian View:** You are *beloved before you perform*. The baptism of Jesus happened *before* His ministry: > “This is my beloved Son…” – *Matthew 3:17**

    **Existential View:** You create meaning through action. > “Man is nothing else but what he makes of himself.” – *Sartre**

    **Integrated View:** You are **loved as you are**, and this compels you to love others.> “We love because He first loved us.” – *1 John 4:19*

    —### 🛤️ **4. Flow of Love: From Being to Doing**

    **Model:****Abide → Transform → Act**| Stage | Meaning | Scriptural Echo || ————- | ——————————————– | ———————— ||

    **Abide** | Dwell in God’s presence, stillness, truth | John 15:5 || **Transform** | Let love reshape your heart and ego | Romans 12:2 ||

    **Act** | Love through sacrifice, creativity, vocation | Micah 6:8, Matthew 25:40 |This mirrors **Jesus’ life**: 30 years of hidden *being*, 3 years of *doing*, eternal *being* again.

    —### 🎨 **5. Archetypes: Artist vs. Saint**

    These are not opposites but facets of vocation.| Archetype | Core Purpose | Strength | Shadow || ————– | —————————————————————- | ———————– | ———————– ||

    **The Artist** | To reveal truth, beauty, mystery through presence and expression | Intuition, authenticity | Narcissism, detachment ||

    **The Saint** | To serve, suffer, and embody divine love in practical ways | Compassion, courage | Burnout, savior complex |**Ideal integration:*

    **The saint with the artist’s soul.**The artist with the saint’s heart.*

    —### 🧭 **6. Application Questions for Reflection*

    *Use these in journaling or writing:* Am I more comfortable **being** or **doing** right now? Why?* Do I believe I’m **loved for who I am**, not just what I offer?* Where is my doing not rooted in being?* Where is my being becoming passive or disconnected from love-in-action?* What would it look like for me to love today—from a place of truth and rest?

    —### 🕊️ Final Synthesis>

    **Being is the root. Doing is the fruit. Love is the life-force that flows through both.

    **This framework lets you:

    * Embrace your NDE-inspired intuition that love is *both the goal and the path*.

    * Integrate Christian theology with broader spiritual insights.

    * Avoid the traps of performance-based worth or detached passivity.

    * Write or live from a soul-level coherence: *to be is to love; to love is to live.*

  • can god create a rock so big that he cannot lift it? he can do one or the other but not at the same time

    Can an Omnipotent God create a rock he cannot lift? it is said that If one answers yes to the question, then God is therefore not omnipotent because he cannot lift the rock, but if one answers no to the question, God is no longer omnipotent because he cannot create the rock.my position is that he can do one or the other, at different times, but he can’t do both at the same time. and, that he can’t do both at the same time doesn’t disprove God as omnipotent.

    to answer this, we need to ask another question. what happens when an immovable rock meets the unstoppable force of God?the issue– the paradox arises because it rests on two premises- that there exist such things as immovable rocks and unstoppable forces – which cannot both be true at once. If there exists an unstoppable force, it follows logically that there cannot be any such thing as an immovable rock, and vice versa.so the key then is “at once”. to ask if God can create both scenarios at once is a logical impossibility. God cannot do the logically impossible.if God creates the immovable rock, he cannot be an unstoppable force. and if God acts as the unstoppable force, he cannot create an immovable rock. he must choose which scenario exists at any given time. and, in fact, the fact that he would be able to choose the scenario, highlights the underlying omnipotence of God to begin with.to highlight the time element. if God made a rock that could not be lifted for a week, then for a week he could not lift it. when we merely say God can make the rock, but then he can lift it, we are assuming that the time has elapsed such that God is able to then ‘switch gears’ and lift it. when we add a time element such as “a week” it highlights that there are in fact restrictions if God makes that rock.we have to suppose that God knows what he’s doing when he makes decisions like that to prevent lifting it for a week. and, this is a matter of consistency…. it is like dropping a ball or not. i can say i won’t drop a ball, and if i am consistent as i would imagine God is, then i won’t drop the ball. if he creates the rock, whether or not he can lift it, he probably won’t lift it for as long as he says he won’t. not that he couldn’t.

    i think at the end of the day you can say God can both make the rock and lift it, if your premise is right that God can be illogical. but that’s another debate. i’m assuming God must be logical. 

    it’s sort of like asking. “can the unlimited limit itself? if you answer yes, then it’s not truly unlimited, though if you answer no it’s still not unlimited”. i call that the ‘unlimited paradox’

  • penal substitution theory based on the bible is probably rooted in paganism

    penal substitution says that God needed an infinite method of having his wrath placated. the only method that is possible, the theory goes, is Jesus dying. his death means you don’t have to die as your sins are “covered”. 

    the problem with this idea is that it didn’t originate until a thousand years after Jesus and has little basis in the bible. during the early church, the language christians used is called “christus victor”. Jesus conquered sin and death on the cross, is the essence of the idea. i like to say love conquers death. anyone belonging to the brotherhood is also saved from death. so, penal substitution isn’t orthodox. 

    what about old testament sacrifices, were they to appease God’s wrath? nope. they were a means of saying “i dedicate what i have to you, and turn myself over to you”. here is a good quote that shows the true basis for old testament sacrifices and how it ties to Jesus’ sacrifice. 

    “In all of the sacrifices, the central theme is not appeasement, but representational consecration. That is, symbolically through the offering the worshiper says “this offering represents my giving to you my life”, or as you might hear in a love song “God I belong to you, here is my heart”. It is not a statement of placation (as if God needed to be bribed into loving us), but an act of devotion, entrusting oneself to God, giving your life into God’s hands. In the case of the thanksgiving and first fruits offerings it means that all that we have comes from God and so with these first fruits we acknowledge that it all belongs to God. The passover offering was about the birth of the people of Israel and marked the time of the exodus of God’s people out of bondage, so the passover offering was about committing and aligning oneself on God’s side against oppression. Finally along with all the other sacrifices the sacrifice of atonement for sin was saying “Here is my life, I want to live it for you Lord. I die to the sinful in me and give my life to you”.

    In the same way blood was sprinkled to dedicate the temple, and dedicate the law to God. This was the case with the Passover sacrifice which originated as the people marked their house door showing their allegiance with God, consecrating their house as belonging to the Lord. Thus Jesus when he connects his death with the Passover speaks of a “Covenant” being established by his blood “This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which is poured out for you” (Lk22:20). It was the sealing of a promise, like signing a contract in blood. We can see here that whether a sin offering, or a thanks offering, or a dedication that in every case there is the common theme of consecration – dedicating to God. This sense of consecration is conveyed in the Latin root of the word “sacrifice” which means “to make sacred” or “to consecrate”. We give ourselves, our lives, our need, our thanks, our allegiance to God vicariously through the ritual of sacrifice.

    There is here the aspect of identification with the animal – you bring a part of yourself to the altar, in many cases laying a hand on the animal’s head before it is slaughtered. Specifically in the case of the sacrifice on the Day of Atonement we can see also an aspect of transference as the scapegoat was sent off bearing the sin away (Lv 16:21-22). And as previously mentioned there is here a clear aspect of vicarious atonement specifically with the sin offerings – that animal that died was you. The consecration here meant that the sinner brought their broken life to the altar Yet in all of this the writers of the Old Testament are emphatic that the main object of sacrifice is not about a mechanical transaction detached from relationship, but the outward ritual effecting inner change, devotion, and repentance. As David says

    “Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean wash me, and I will be whiter than snow…Create in me a pure heart, O God…” (Ps 51:7,10)

    David’s prayer here is that the outward cleansing of the hyssop would go down and cleanse his inmost being. God, David says, is not interested in outward actions, but in the state of his heart. This is a relational exchange not a legal one.

    “You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it. You do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise” (Ps 51:16-17).”