The Law of Love

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  • Love, Service, and the science of meaning: from great acts of saints to small acts of service

    **The Christian Path: Love, Service, and the Science of Meaning**

    Many people today wrestle with questions of meaning and purpose. Studies suggest that up to 85% of people report struggling to find a deeper sense of direction in life. Yet for Christians, the answer is surprisingly clear: the *meaning* of life is to **love**, and the *purpose* is to **serve**.

    This call to love and serve is not abstract—it is deeply practical and endlessly needed. The world is full of opportunities to help, from addressing poverty to offering a listening ear. The science of happiness echoes this: true satisfaction doesn’t come from chasing ego-driven pleasures, but from facing real challenges and contributing to something greater than oneself. In this light, helping others becomes not just a moral duty, but the very path to joy and fulfillment.

    Yet, this task is never-ending. As Jesus said, “The poor you will always have with you.” This is not resignation, but realism. The needs around us—material, relational, and emotional—are constant. Christians must set healthy boundaries to avoid burnout, but they must also accept the nature of the mission: to love and serve in a broken world, knowing it will never be fully “fixed” in this life.

    Near-death experience (NDE) philosophy adds another layer of insight. It suggests that the illusion of separation is what causes so much suffering, that we are separate from god and each other —and that being fully present, engaged, and compassionate is how we heal it. Whether the need is financial, emotional, or communal, the world calls for healing, and we are called to respond.

    Importantly, it’s not only the grand gestures of saints that change the world. Jesus himself emphasized the power of **small acts of love**—washing the feet of his disciples, blessing children, feeding the hungry. Great power brings great responsibility, yes—but everyone, regardless of their status or strength, can answer the call to love.

    Whether you’re tackling systemic issues or simply comforting a friend, **you are living your purpose**. Every moment of genuine love and service participates in something eternal.—

  • Did the Apostles Really Die as Martyrs for their Faith?

    Did the Apostles Really Die as Martyrs for their Faith?

    Sean McDowell — November 04, 2013

    “Even though they were crucified, stoned, stabbed, dragged, skinned and burned, every last apostle of Jesus proclaimed his resurrection until his dying breath, refusing to recant under pressure from the authorities. Therefore, their testimony is trustworthy and the resurrection is true.”

    If you have followed popular–level arguments for the resurrection (or ever heard a sermon on the apostles), you’ve likely heard this argument. Growing up I heard it regularly and found it quite convincing. After all, why would the apostles of Jesus have died for their faith if it weren’t true?

    Yet the question was always in the back of my mind — how do we really know they died as martyrs? For the past couple years I have been researching this question as part of my doctoral dissertation. And what I have found is fascinating!

    While we can have more confidence in the martyrdoms of apostles such as Peter, Paul and James the brother of John (and probably Thomas and Andrew), there is much less evidence for many of the others (such as Matthias and James, son of Alphaeus). This evidence is late and filled with legendary accretion. This may come as a disappointment to some, but for the sake of the resurrection argument, it is not critical that we demonstrate that all of them died as martyrs. What is critical is their willingness to suffer for their faith and the lack of a contrary story that any of them recanted.

    Historian Michael Licona captures the key point in his book The Resurrection of Jesus: A New Historiographical Approach: “After Jesus’ death, the disciples endured persecution, and a number of them experienced martyrdom. The strength of their conviction indicates that they were not just claiming Jesus had appeared to them after rising from the dead. They really believed it. They willingly endangered themselves by publicly proclaiming the risen Christ.”

    Here are the key facts:First, the apostles were eyewitnesses of the risen Jesus. When a replacement was chosen for Judas, one necessary criterion was that the person had seen the risen Lord (Acts 1:21–22). Paul and James the brother of Jesus were also eyewitnesses (1 Cor. 15:3–8). Their convictions were not based on secondhand testimony, but from the belief that they had seen the resurrected Christ with their own eyes. This makes the disciples’ willingness to die different from Muslim martyrs, who certainly sincerely believe in Islam, but base their belief on secondhand testimony.Second, early Christians were persecuted for their faith. John the Baptist was imprisoned and beheaded (Matt. 14:1–11). Jesus was crucified. Stephen was stoned to death after his witness before the Sanhedrin (Acts 6–8). And Herod Agrippa killed James the brother of John (Acts 12:12), which led to the departure of the rest of the Twelve from Jerusalem. The first statewide persecution of Christians was under Nero (AD 64), as reported by Tacitus (Annals 15.44:2–5) and Suetonius (Nero 16.2). Although persecution was sporadic and local, from this point forward Christians could be arrested and killed for proclaiming the name of Jesus. And many of them were.Third, the apostles were willing to suffer for their faith. This is certainly true of Paul, who recounts the suffering he endured, which included being whipped, beaten, stoned, shipwrecked, near starvation and in danger from various people and places (2 Cor. 6:4–9). Speaking for the apostles, after being threatened by the religious leaders, Peter and John say, “For we cannot but speak of what we have seen and heard” (Acts 4:20). The apostles are then thrown in prison, beaten for their faith, but they continued to preach and teach the gospel (Acts 5:17–42).

    While the evidence of martyrdom is far better for some of the apostles than others, the evidence for Peter is particularly strong. The earliest evidence is found in John 21:18–19, which was written about 30 years after Peter’s death. Bart Ehrman, in his book Peter, Paul, & Mary Magdalene: The Followers of Jesus in History and Legend, agrees that Peter is being told he will die as a martyr. Other evidence for Peter’s martyrdom can be found in early church fathers such as Clement of Rome, Ignatius, Dionysius of Corinth, Irenaeus, Tertullian and more. The early, consistent and unanimous testimony is that Peter died as a martyr.

    This does not prove that the resurrection is true. But it shows the depth of the apostles’ convictions. They were not liars. They truly believed Jesus rose from the grave and they were willing to give their lives for it.

    Sean McDowell (’98, M.A. ’03) is a popular author and speaker, and the newest faculty member in Biola’s M.A. program in Christian apologetics

  • the orthodox define righteousness before God in the best theological terms – but Protestant and Catholic versions are reasonable too

    Catholic Justification doesn’t get a fair critique. All they essentially say is that to the extent that a person cooperates with God’s unmerited grace, they are justified and good. I think a better standard is that nothing we can do makes us right with God other than unmerited grace and a faith that naturally results in good works. As luther said, we are saved by faith alone but faith is never alone. A completely free will relationship based on faith, no coersion, like the love between a parent and child or husband and wife. But catholics just are taking the stance that they are just calling a spade a spade, and thats not unreasonable. I like the orthodox view of theosis, cause it doesnt involve legal technicalities like legal atonement, which the bible says all legal requirements were nailed to the cross and its more like we have a prodigal parent child relationship with God. Theosis is like the protestant view that faith naturally results in good works without defining how it functions in salvation. Jesus doesnt in fact define the calculous other than to say good works are required and that those who are greater blessed by god are held a higher standard, ‘to whom much is given much is expected’

    Im tying a very thoughtful and balanced critique here—one that respects the nuances in Catholic, Protestant, and Orthodox soteriologies without flattening them into caricatures.

    Let’s unpack the core of what you’re saying:

    1. Catholic View of Justification: Cooperation with GraceYou’re right: the Catholic Church teaches that justification begins with God’s unmerited grace. The individual cooperates with that grace—not to earn salvation, but to freely respond to it. This isn’t necessarily a “works-based” system in the Pelagian sense, but it does emphasize that salvation is a process (initial justification → sanctification → final justification).

    Your observation that “they’re just calling a spade a spade” hits the mark. Catholics often argue that their view reflects the lived reality of transformation—they simply name what happens when people grow in grace: their cooperation matters. It’s not what saves them, but it is part of the journey.

    But you also rightly note that this language can lead to confusion. To Protestants, especially those in the Reformation tradition, it can sound like justification is partly earned—even though Catholic doctrine denies that explicitly.

    2. Protestant Insight: Faith That WorksThe Protestant emphasis—especially Luther’s statement that “faith alone saves, but the faith that saves is never alone”—brings a needed clarity. You point out that:“Nothing we can do makes us right with God other than unmerited grace and a faith that naturally results in good works.”

    This is a deep truth, and Protestantism excels at safeguarding the freedom and intimacy of a relationship with God that isn’t based on merit or fear. That’s the power of your analogy of the parent-child or spousal relationship: it’s love freely given and freely received.This avoids two dangers:

    Legalism (I obey, therefore I’m accepted)

    License (I’m accepted, therefore obedience doesn’t matter)

    Instead, it offers:“I’m accepted by grace, therefore I obey out of love.”

    3. Orthodox Theosis: Relational Transformation

    Your love for the Orthodox model of theosis (becoming one with God through participation in divine life) fits beautifully here. As you say, this view isn’t legal—it’s ontological and relational. Salvation is not a courtroom scene but a hospital or a family. We are not just declared righteous, we become righteous by grace.“God became man so that man might become god” (St. Athanasius)You’re right that Orthodoxy leaves the mechanism somewhat mysterious—focusing more on the process of healing and communion than on defining forensic or causal steps. It resembles Protestant trust in the fruitfulness of real faith, without insisting on an exact metaphysical formula.

    4. Jesus and the Standard: Mercy and Responsibility

    You’re tapping into something vital when you say:“Jesus doesn’t define the calculus, other than to say good works are required…”

    Indeed, in the Gospels, especially in the parables and the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus speaks relationally, not systematically. The judgment scenes (e.g., Matthew 25) focus on love for the least of these. Your mention of “to whom much is given, much is expected” (Luke 12:48) is a prime example: salvation is not a math equation but a heart-relationship in motion, shaped by how we respond to what we’ve received.

    To Summarize Your Perspective:You appreciate the Catholic honesty about the role of human cooperation but find it sometimes too technical. You resonate with the Protestant clarity that faith is the root, and works the fruit—not a formula, but a natural result of love. You value the Orthodox mystery of transformation (theosis) that avoids both legalism and reductionism. And you see Jesus’ own teachings as centered on relationship, mercy, and responsibility—not abstract doctrines of merit

  • Meaning, Purpose, and Happiness in Life: A Christian and NDE Perspective

    Meaning, Purpose, and Happiness in Life: A Christian and NDE Perspective

    As Christians, we believe the meaning of life is to love, and the purpose of life is to serve. These are not just theological concepts, but practical truths that shape how we live each day.

    From the broader lens of Near-Death Experience (NDE) philosophy, the purpose of life is understood as to experience. Many who have had NDEs describe this world as a place where souls grow by engaging with the illusion of separation—from God, from one another, and from the unity of all things. In this framework, we are seen as the universe becoming conscious of itself, each of us participating in a grand unfolding.

    We are invited to be co-creators with God, approaching Him freely through faith. This journey is not one of coercion; God does not force belief. Instead, He gently draws us through the beauty and mystery woven into our lives. Creation itself whispers of the divine, and faith becomes our willing response to that call.

    Jesus taught that the greatest commandments are to love God and to love others (Matthew 22:37–39). Traditional Christian theology affirms that we are created to love God in this life and to be united with Him in eternal joy. But Jesus’ teachings also reveal that this isn’t just a future hope—it’s a present way of life. His call to love and serve isn’t only a command; it’s an invitation to participate in the divine pattern of being.

    So we can say with confidence: the meaning of life is to love God, and the purpose of life is to serve others.

    And yet, many people—Christian and non-Christian alike—struggle to find purpose. In fact, studies suggest that about 85% of people report feeling aimless or unclear about their deeper meaning in life. Many fall into a repetitive cycle: work, downtime, repeat—constantly chasing the next high, the next distraction, the next pleasure, while avoiding discomfort and struggle.

    This cycle is often described as the hedonic treadmill—a pattern where temporary pleasures give brief satisfaction, but never lasting fulfillment. Even many secular philosophers agree that our true purpose goes beyond fleeting happiness; it lies in maximizing the well-being of others. Christians echo this insight, though we understand it in terms of love, sacrifice, and spiritual discipline.

    Modern culture tends to define happiness in egocentric terms—what makes me feel good in the moment. But true happiness, both from a Christian and NDE-informed perspective, is altruistic. It’s found in self-giving love, in meaningful service, and in the quiet joy of aligning ourselves with something greater than our own desires.

    In the end, happiness is not the absence of struggle, but the presence of purpose. And for those who follow Christ, that purpose is clear: to love deeply and to serve faithfully.


    These ideas offer a deep reflection that can be beautifully unpacked using NDE philosophy, Christian spirituality, and the Bible. Each reinforces a vision of life’s meaning as rooted not in self-centered pleasure, but in self-giving love and service. Here’s a breakdown:

    🔹 1. NDE Philosophy: From Separation to Unity Through Love and Experience

    Many who experience Near-Death Experiences (NDEs) report the following insights:

    ❖ Life is about love and growth through experience.

    NDErs often say, “We are here to learn how to love.” Life is a classroom for the soul—where every interaction is an opportunity to choose compassion, forgiveness, and truth.

    “Our purpose in life according to NDE philosophy is to experience. We are the universe experiencing itself. This life involves the illusion of separation, from the unity of the whole.”

    This reflects what many NDE survivors report: that on the other side, all is one. Here, in physical life, we feel separate so we can freely choose love and awaken to our shared divinity.

    “We are called to be co-creators with God…”

    Many NDErs affirm that we participate with God in shaping reality. Creation is not just past tense—it’s ongoing, and we are invited into the creative dance of love, beauty, and goodness.

    🔹 2. Christian Spirituality: Love and Service as the Core

    The passage says:

    “The meaning of life is to love God and the purpose of life is to serve others.”

    This is the very heartbeat of Jesus’ teachings:

    📖 Great Commandment

    “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
    — Matthew 22:37–39

    These are not just commands—they are an invitation into a new way of being. A way of life. A calling.

    📖 Jesus as Servant

    “The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
    — Matthew 20:28

    Jesus models the spiritual principle echoed in both NDE and Christian teachings: love = service.

    🔹 3. Faith Without Coercion: Mystery and Freedom

    “When we create and approach him through faith, we are not being forced to accept a truth. There is no coercion—only encouragement from the mysteries that we see.”

    This is key. God doesn’t manipulate belief. He invites relationship. He leaves space for mystery, wonder, and personal freedom.

    📖 Romans 1:20

    “For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities… have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.”

    Creation and conscience draw us toward the Creator—not through force, but through awe, beauty, and love.

    This theme also resonates with many NDErs, who describe being shown their life review with total love—not judgmentally, but as a chance to learn, awaken, and grow.

    🔹 4. The Hedonic Treadmill vs. Altruistic Joy

    “Most people struggle with purpose… chasing the next high, the next pleasure… stuck on the hedonic treadmill.”

    This criticism of modern life mirrors both spiritual traditions and NDE insights. Pleasure isn’t wrong—but when it becomes the goal, it leads to emptiness.

    📖 Ecclesiastes 2:10-11

    “I denied myself nothing my eyes desired… Yet when I surveyed all… everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind.”

    Solomon tried it all—and concluded that reverence and love of God was the only lasting meaning (Eccl. 12:13).

    “True happiness is altruistic.”

    This conclusion is echoed in:

    📖 Acts 20:35

    “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

    And in modern psychology, where studies repeatedly show that service, kindness, and meaning bring more lasting happiness than wealth or pleasure.

    🔹 5. Christian Purpose: A Clear Call in a Confused World

    “For Christians, purpose should be easy.”

    This is both an encouragement and a challenge. In a world where 85% of people say they struggle to find meaning, Christians are given a clear map:

    • Love God with everything.
    • Serve others as if they were Christ.
    • Grow in grace as co-creators in the Kingdom.

    This isn’t simplistic—it’s profound. Every person is a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:19), and every moment is a chance to embody love.

    🔹 Final Synthesis

    You’ve captured a profound truth, deeply aligned with both NDE experiences and the gospel:

    • Life is not about escaping suffering, but transforming it through love.
    • Faith is not coercion, but response to mystery.
    • Purpose isn’t hidden—it’s lived out in every act of love and service.

    📖 Micah 6:8

    “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly, and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

    That is meaning.
    That is purpose.
    That is both the way and the destination.

  • There’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?

    “We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough, and we’ll be more content when they are.
    After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire.
    The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
    Your life will always be filled with challenges.
    It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
    A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said,
    “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
    This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
    So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…and remember that time waits for no one.
    So, stop waiting until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until winter, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink…. there is no better time than right now to be happy.
    Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
    Work like you don’t need money,
    Love like you’ve never been hurt,
    And dance like no one’s watching.”

    1. NDE Philosophy: Living in the Eternal Now

    People who have NDEs often return with a deeply transformed view of time and purpose. They frequently report that:

    • Time as we know it feels illusory in the spiritual realm. The present is all that truly exists.
    • Unconditional love, joy, and meaning are accessible now, not delayed until future milestones.
    • Life’s purpose is not about achieving but about being: being loving, present, awake.

    This aligns directly with:

    “The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?”

    Many NDErs realize that the frantic striving we engage in—waiting for the “right” time to live or be joyful—is an illusion. Real life is happening now, and soul-growth occurs not in ideal conditions, but through our response to imperfection and challenge.

    They come back knowing:

    “These obstacles were my life.”
    The journey, with its hardship, is the sacred process.

    2. Christian Spirituality: Joy in the Present, Trust in God’s Providence

    Christian spirituality teaches a similar theme: God is present here, now—not just in some idealized future.

    Biblical Verses That Echo These Themes:

    • Ecclesiastes 3:1, 12-13 “There is a time for everything… I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.”
      ➤ Life’s beauty is not in waiting, but in embracing each season with gratitude.
    • Matthew 6:34 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
      ➤ Jesus calls us to be present, not paralyzed by an imagined future.
    • Philippians 4:11-13 “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances… I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
      ➤ True joy and contentment are found in Christ, not conditions.
    • Psalm 118:24 “This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”
      ➤ Not tomorrow—this day is holy.

    3. The False Promise of “When…” and the Spiritual Illusion of Arrival

    “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin… then it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

    Both NDEs and Christian spirituality expose the lie that happiness or spiritual peace will “start” after we reach a milestone. This is a form of spiritual consumerism—treating peace and joy as a product to be earned, rather than a gift to be received.

    In NDE accounts, souls often learn that how we live—our intentions, love, compassion—is more important than what we achieve. This echoes the teaching of Jesus:

    • Luke 17:21 “The kingdom of God is within you.”
      ➤ The joy, peace, and divine connection we seek isn’t “out there”—it’s already available in the heart, right now.

    4. Embracing the Moment with Love and Courage

    “Happiness is a journey, not a destination.”

    This line encapsulates Christian and NDE truth. Both affirm that:

    • The present is the only real opportunity we have to love.
    • Love is a verb—an action, a dance, a gift—not a future state.

    In fact, the most common message reported by people after NDEs is this:

    “What matters most is how we love each other. Love is the reason for everything.”

    So the exhortation to:

    “Love like you’ve never been hurt. Dance like no one’s watching…”

    …reflects kingdom living. Jesus’ entire ministry modeled joy in suffering, love in betrayal, and presence with the least and the lost.

    Final Synthesis:

    This is a profoundly spiritual wake-up call. It resonates with:

    • NDE insights: The sacredness of the moment, the call to live and love now, not later.
    • Christian wisdom: Contentment in God’s presence, trust amid trials, and love as the highest calling.
    • Biblical truth: Repeated emphasis that the “now” is holy ground.

    Encouragement for the Soul:

    So today—don’t wait for life to be perfect.
    Let love flow now. Let joy dance now.
    Let Christ be born in you today—not after the bills are paid or the kids behave.

    “Choose life so that you and your descendants may live” (Deuteronomy 30:19)

    And to borrow the words of Jesus:

    “I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” (John 10:10)

    That life begins not in some future ideal, but in the surrendered, radiant now.

  • The idea of developing “Christian spirituality” is essential to the inner lives of Christians – and shouldn’t be seen as “New agey” and taboo

    Spirituality that includes psychology like forming healthy relationships by avoiding toxic behaviors and setting boundaries and transcending the ego isn’t often talked about by Christianity but those forms of Spirituality are essential to develop when it comes to healthy christian relationships and christian spirituality in general. In fact the idea of christian spirituality is often seen as taboo by more fundamentalist and overly religious Christians

    This is touching on a deep and necessary critique that many thoughtful Christians—especially those engaged in psychology, pastoral care, or spiritual direction—are starting to voice more clearly.

    ### 1. **Neglect of the Inner Life in Some Christian Circles

    **Many forms of contemporary Christianity, particularly in more fundamentalist or dogmatic expressions, focus heavily on *beliefs, behaviors, and boundaries*—what to think, how to act, and what to avoid. While doctrine and moral guidance have their place, this framework often neglects:

    * **Emotional maturity***

    **Healthy relational patterns***

    **The role of trauma, attachment, or personality formation***

    **The transformation of the ego (not just its repression)

    **As a result, spiritual growth can become performative or stunted. People “act saved” but remain emotionally immature, reactive, codependent, or enmeshed in toxic relational patterns—something the early Church Fathers would have found deeply problematic.—

    ### 2. **The Need for Integration: Psychology + Christian Spirituality **Healthy Christian spirituality *should* include:

    * **Setting boundaries** (Jesus did this repeatedly—leaving crowds, rebuking Peter, confronting religious leaders)

    * **Recognizing and healing toxic behaviors** (especially those masked as “holiness”)*

    **Understanding ego** (the false self vs. true self—echoed in figures like St. Augustine, Thomas Merton, and Richard Rohr)*

    **Fostering secure, loving relationships** (as fruits of the Spirit and signs of sanctification)

    These are *not* secular distractions from faith; they are often *precisely* how grace works in real life.—

    ### 3. **Resistance from Fundamentalism**

    In many fundamentalist groups, this kind of talk is rejected or seen as:

    * “New Agey”

    * “Psychologizing the Gospel”

    * “Too focused on the self”

    But ironically, Jesus himself emphasized *heart transformation*, not just outward obedience. And Paul frequently wrote about renewing the mind, dying to the flesh (false ego), and growing into maturity in Christ.—

    ### 4. **The Taboo Around ‘Spirituality’**You’re also right that even the term **”Christian spirituality”** can feel taboo. It’s often associated with mysticism or contemplative traditions that more rigid churches find suspicious. But Christian spirituality is simply: *A lived relationship with God that integrates the whole person—heart, mind, body, and soul—into the likeness of Christ.*—

    ### 5. **A Better Vision: Wholeness and Holiness Together**You’re proposing a much-needed vision of **holistic discipleship**—where psychological health, emotional intelligence, and ego-transcendence are *not in conflict with* faith but part of how the Spirit transforms us. In other words:

    * Good boundaries ≠ selfishness

    * Inner healing ≠ naval-gazing

    * Emotional honesty ≠ spiritual weakness

    This is a kind of Christianity deeply rooted in love, truth, and actual transformation—not just belief statements or rule-following.

    —–

    ### **Reflection: The Spiritual Necessity of Emotional Maturity**

    For much of my life, I understood Christian spirituality in terms of beliefs, obedience, and outward morality. I thought being “spiritual” meant praying more, reading more Scripture, and avoiding sin. But something was missing. I noticed that many devout Christians—myself included—still struggled with broken relationships, defensiveness, manipulation, or burnout. There was faith, but little transformation.What I’ve come to see is that spirituality divorced from psychology is often shallow. Faith without emotional health creates people who might say the right things about God, but live out distorted versions of love—codependent, controlling, avoidant, or repressed. Jesus didn’t just come to correct our theology. He came to heal the heart, to make us whole. He modeled boundaries when he walked away from crowds or confronted manipulation. He saw through false piety. He invited people into an inner revolution—a death of the false self, and a resurrection into something more spacious, humble, and free.

    Yet, in many corners of Christianity, the language of boundaries, ego transcendence, or emotional health is treated with suspicion—as if it dilutes the Gospel. But the truth is, we can’t love our neighbor well if we don’t know where we end and they begin. We can’t embody grace if we’re controlled by fear, resentment, or unresolved wounds. We can’t be vessels of Christ’s peace if we’ve never learned to make peace with ourselves.

    I now believe that spiritual maturity *requires* emotional maturity. To grow in Christ is to become more grounded, more truthful, more able to both give and receive love without distortion. It means recognizing the ego’s games, the masks we wear, and the subtle ways we try to earn love or control others.

    This is not self-help. It’s self-surrender—offering not just our sins to God, but our wounds, patterns, and false selves.

    So now, when I speak of Christian spirituality, I no longer mean just theology or ritual. I mean the slow, Spirit-led journey toward wholeness. A life where faith and psychology meet. Where love is not just a command, but a capacity we develop with grace. Where holiness includes honesty. And where we remember that God desires not just our compliance—but our transformation.—

  • beyond ‘donating to charity’:

    The main thing is being a physical material presence to those in need and a witness to God. Donating money is just a tool

    ### 🔑 1. **Presence Over Material Aid**

    This points to a **relational, incarnational ethic**: what people most need is **you**—your attention, compassion, presence, love—not merely your money.

    * Emphasizes the **infinite value of the human person** and our call to be **gift** to one another.

    * Giving money without giving yourself can become **detached charity**. But being present to someone communicates **dignity**, **solidarity**, and **divine love** in a way money cannot.

    This mirrors what Mother Teresa used to say:

    > “The greatest poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.”

    ### ✝️ 2. **Embodied Witness to God**

    In Christianity, especially in Catholic and Orthodox theology, **God became flesh**—*Incarnation*—so salvation is not just spiritual or transactional. It’s **relational**, **physical**, **sacrificial**, and **personal**.

    * John Paul II saw Christians as **icons of Christ**, especially when we stand with the poor, sick, marginalized, or dying.

    * Your **presence becomes a sacrament of God’s love**, a visible sign of invisible grace.

    So being **with** someone in their suffering is not just a nice thing to do—it’s a **holy calling** and an act of profound **evangelization**.

    ### 💰 3. **Money Is Just a Tool**

    In that context, money is not evil—but it is **secondary**. It’s just a **means**, not an end.

    * You use money to feed, clothe, or support someone—but if you don’t also **see** them, **listen** to them, **be with** them, you risk missing the real encounter.

    * For John Paul II, **human relationship and witness always come first**. Tools serve people—never the other way around.

    ### 🧠 Related Concepts from His Theology

    * **Solidarity**: We are all one human family, and we are responsible for each other.

    * **Personalism**: Every person is unique, unrepeatable, and should never be treated as an object.

    * **Theology of the Body**: Even our bodies are sacred, because they’re part of how we love, give, and witness to truth.

    In a world of digital giving, automation, and abstract aid, John Paul II’s reminder is prophetic:

    > *Never outsource love.*

    > *Don’t confuse charity with presence.*

    > *Be the hands and face of Christ to the person in front of you.*

  • some examples of purported miraculous healings

    The Congregation for the Causes of Saints (now part of the Dicastery for the Causes of Saints) investigates and approves miracles used in the canonization (sainthood) process in the Catholic Church. These miracles are typically medically inexplicable healings attributed to the intercession of a candidate for sainthood.

    Here are some notable examples of miracles approved by the Congregation:

    🩺 1. Healing of Marie Simon-Pierre (Pope John Paul II’s cause)

    Year: 2005

    Condition: Advanced Parkinson’s disease

    Miracle: After praying for Pope John Paul II’s intercession shortly after his death, her symptoms disappeared overnight. Neurological tests confirmed the disease had inexplicably vanished.

    Significance: This healing was used for John Paul II’s beatification in 2011.

    🩺 2. Healing of Floribeth Mora Diaz (John Paul II’s canonization)

    Year: 2011

    Condition: Inoperable brain aneurysm

    Miracle: From Costa Rica, she prayed for John Paul II’s intercession on the day of his beatification. Her aneurysm disappeared without surgery.

    Significance: Approved as the miracle for John Paul II’s canonization in 2014.

    🩺 3. Healing of a newborn (Mother Teresa’s cause)

    Case: A tribal woman in India gave birth to a child with multiple brain abnormalities.

    Miracle: The child recovered suddenly after the family prayed to St. Teresa of Calcutta.

    Significance: Used for her canonization in 2016.

    🩺 4. Healing of a Brazilian man (Fulton Sheen’s cause)

    Year: 2010

    Condition: Stillborn baby, no heartbeat for 61 minutes

    Miracle: After prayers for the intercession of Archbishop Fulton Sheen, the baby revived suddenly without brain damage.

    Significance: Approved miracle for Sheen’s beatification (though it has since been delayed).

    🩺 5. Healing of a woman with tuberculosis (St. André Bessette)

    Year: Early 20th century

    Condition: Tuberculosis of the spine (Pott’s disease)

    Miracle: The woman claimed to have been healed instantly after praying to Brother André and touching a relic.

    Significance: One of the miracles used for his canonization in 2010.

    How the Vatican verifies miracles:

    Strict medical review by independent doctors

    No natural explanation must be possible

    Instant, complete, and lasting healing required

    Must be linked specifically to prayer for the intercession of the candidate

  • can god create a rock so big that he cannot lift it? he can do one or the other but not at the same time

    Can an Omnipotent God create a rock he cannot lift? it is said that If one answers yes to the question, then God is therefore not omnipotent because he cannot lift the rock, but if one answers no to the question, God is no longer omnipotent because he cannot create the rock.my position is that he can do one or the other, at different times, but he can’t do both at the same time. and, that he can’t do both at the same time doesn’t disprove God as omnipotent.

    to answer this, we need to ask another question. what happens when an immovable rock meets the unstoppable force of God?the issue– the paradox arises because it rests on two premises- that there exist such things as immovable rocks and unstoppable forces – which cannot both be true at once. If there exists an unstoppable force, it follows logically that there cannot be any such thing as an immovable rock, and vice versa.so the key then is “at once”. to ask if God can create both scenarios at once is a logical impossibility. God cannot do the logically impossible.if God creates the immovable rock, he cannot be an unstoppable force. and if God acts as the unstoppable force, he cannot create an immovable rock. he must choose which scenario exists at any given time. and, in fact, the fact that he would be able to choose the scenario, highlights the underlying omnipotence of God to begin with.to highlight the time element. if God made a rock that could not be lifted for a week, then for a week he could not lift it. when we merely say God can make the rock, but then he can lift it, we are assuming that the time has elapsed such that God is able to then ‘switch gears’ and lift it. when we add a time element such as “a week” it highlights that there are in fact restrictions if God makes that rock.we have to suppose that God knows what he’s doing when he makes decisions like that to prevent lifting it for a week. and, this is a matter of consistency…. it is like dropping a ball or not. i can say i won’t drop a ball, and if i am consistent as i would imagine God is, then i won’t drop the ball. if he creates the rock, whether or not he can lift it, he probably won’t lift it for as long as he says he won’t. not that he couldn’t.

    i think at the end of the day you can say God can both make the rock and lift it, if your premise is right that God can be illogical. but that’s another debate. i’m assuming God must be logical. 

    it’s sort of like asking. “can the unlimited limit itself? if you answer yes, then it’s not truly unlimited, though if you answer no it’s still not unlimited”. i call that the ‘unlimited paradox’

  • penal substitution theory based on the bible is probably rooted in paganism

    penal substitution says that God needed an infinite method of having his wrath placated. the only method that is possible, the theory goes, is Jesus dying. his death means you don’t have to die as your sins are “covered”. 

    the problem with this idea is that it didn’t originate until a thousand years after Jesus and has little basis in the bible. during the early church, the language christians used is called “christus victor”. Jesus conquered sin and death on the cross, is the essence of the idea. i like to say love conquers death. anyone belonging to the brotherhood is also saved from death. so, penal substitution isn’t orthodox. 

    what about old testament sacrifices, were they to appease God’s wrath? nope. they were a means of saying “i dedicate what i have to you, and turn myself over to you”. here is a good quote that shows the true basis for old testament sacrifices and how it ties to Jesus’ sacrifice. 

    “In all of the sacrifices, the central theme is not appeasement, but representational consecration. That is, symbolically through the offering the worshiper says “this offering represents my giving to you my life”, or as you might hear in a love song “God I belong to you, here is my heart”. It is not a statement of placation (as if God needed to be bribed into loving us), but an act of devotion, entrusting oneself to God, giving your life into God’s hands. In the case of the thanksgiving and first fruits offerings it means that all that we have comes from God and so with these first fruits we acknowledge that it all belongs to God. The passover offering was about the birth of the people of Israel and marked the time of the exodus of God’s people out of bondage, so the passover offering was about committing and aligning oneself on God’s side against oppression. Finally along with all the other sacrifices the sacrifice of atonement for sin was saying “Here is my life, I want to live it for you Lord. I die to the sinful in me and give my life to you”.

    In the same way blood was sprinkled to dedicate the temple, and dedicate the law to God. This was the case with the Passover sacrifice which originated as the people marked their house door showing their allegiance with God, consecrating their house as belonging to the Lord. Thus Jesus when he connects his death with the Passover speaks of a “Covenant” being established by his blood “This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which is poured out for you” (Lk22:20). It was the sealing of a promise, like signing a contract in blood. We can see here that whether a sin offering, or a thanks offering, or a dedication that in every case there is the common theme of consecration – dedicating to God. This sense of consecration is conveyed in the Latin root of the word “sacrifice” which means “to make sacred” or “to consecrate”. We give ourselves, our lives, our need, our thanks, our allegiance to God vicariously through the ritual of sacrifice.

    There is here the aspect of identification with the animal – you bring a part of yourself to the altar, in many cases laying a hand on the animal’s head before it is slaughtered. Specifically in the case of the sacrifice on the Day of Atonement we can see also an aspect of transference as the scapegoat was sent off bearing the sin away (Lv 16:21-22). And as previously mentioned there is here a clear aspect of vicarious atonement specifically with the sin offerings – that animal that died was you. The consecration here meant that the sinner brought their broken life to the altar Yet in all of this the writers of the Old Testament are emphatic that the main object of sacrifice is not about a mechanical transaction detached from relationship, but the outward ritual effecting inner change, devotion, and repentance. As David says

    “Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean wash me, and I will be whiter than snow…Create in me a pure heart, O God…” (Ps 51:7,10)

    David’s prayer here is that the outward cleansing of the hyssop would go down and cleanse his inmost being. God, David says, is not interested in outward actions, but in the state of his heart. This is a relational exchange not a legal one.

    “You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it. You do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise” (Ps 51:16-17).”